How to Build Self Confidence and Self Esteem

Updated: Aug 27, 2020


Self confidence is how we feel about ourselves. It is the belief in our abilities to accomplish any task no matter the odds, difficulties and adversities. Our success, by and large, is the result of our iron faith in ourselves translated into action. It is the “open sesame” to success. At the same time we tend to become more confident when we succeed in something or feel accomplished. That is, self confidence and success follow each other.


Lack of self confidence leads to low self esteem, poor self worth and self doubt. Since such people doubt their own abilities they are hesitant to take risks or better opportunities, this hampers their growth in both personal and professional life. People with low self confidence -- tend to hate themselves, are obsessed with being perfect, are oversensitive, fearful, often get angry and are people pleasers. All these factors hold back such people from focusing and working towards their goals.


On the other hand, people with high self confidence generally like themselves, are willing to take risks and bigger opportunities to achieve their personal and professional goals and think positively about their future.

Now, we cannot deny the fact that aoint or the other we have all gone through self doubt and lack of self confidence or are going through it, but fortunately there are many things we can do to elevate our self confidence and self esteem. Here are some tips how to go about it:


  • Take care of yourself: Do something good for your body every single day. Exercise regularly, develop a good eating and sleeping habit and take care of your hair, skin and nails. Dress the way you want to. Do anything that makes you feel good about yourself. Work towards developing a healthy physique.

  • Stay away from negative people: Negative people are extremely dangerous for your emotional health. They try to break your confidence with their negative talks. It becomes important to either maintain a distance from these kinds of people or, if possible, eliminate them from your life. Though it will hurt you in the beginning but will pay you off well in the long run.

  • Visualise yourself as you want to be: We all have a mental picture of ourselves which determines how confident we feel. A poor self image results in low self confidence. Use visualisation technique to see an image of yourself that you are proud of. That is, visualize the best version of yourself.

  • Appreciate yourself: We tend to behave in accordance with our own self image. We believe whatever we tell ourselves and appreciation is a positive and uplifting statement we say to ourselves. The trick here is to change the way how you view yourself. So the more you appreciate yourself, more you tend to believe in the goodness in you and more proud you feel about yourself. Always remember, there is no one else like you and that is your superpower.

  • Improve your posture: Yes, there exists a body posture that makes you look and feel confident. Stand and walk in an upright position, with your chest out and shoulders pulled back. This will help you to look taller and broader and can even trick your brain into feeling more confident and capable.

  • Maintain an eye contact: When we maintain a good eye contact while conversing with others it shows how confident we are and speaks volumes about our sincerity and transparency.

  • Empower yourself: One of the best ways to feel more confident is to empower yourself with more knowledge by reading, researching and studying, taking up new courses, etc. Prepare yourself for your own betterment and practice, practice, practice whether it is public speaking, swimming