Updated: Sep 8, 2020
There are some people who just seem to have that star quality that when they walk into a room full of people everyone is simply drawn towards them. Everyone wants to know about them, talk to them, be with them and wants to be like them. The question is what is that star quality that makes a person so attractive, so memorable and so irresistible? It is the ‘charisma’ that such people have and forgettable people lack.
Charismatic people are likeable, interesting, energetic and pleasant to be with. They are intelligent, they have credibility and they exude positivity. There are two myths about charismatic people, firstly, they are born with such quality and secondly, they are perfect. Both these schools of thought are far from truth, in fact, charisma is a quality people are not born with, they develop it overtime and neither are charismatic people perfect, rather, they are aware of their imperfections and embrace them.
No matter it may seem that some people are born likeable or are born perfect (which is definitely not true), everyone can develop charisma. All you need to know and practice are some tips to improve your charisma. Here they are:
Love yourself, embrace your imperfections: Imperfections are not inadequacies. We tend to keep comparing ourselves with others which is the root cause of our complexities. You need to understand that ‘there is no one else like you and that is your superpower’. ‘Perfection’ is just an illusion, it is non-existent and hence, striving to be perfect is a futile chase. You should be your only comparison and try to be better than you were yesterday. Work towards achieving your best, bring out your best potential. You are born real and not perfect, love yourself that way and the world will love you back.
Do not be conversational narcissists: It’s good to love yourself but not to the extent of being a narcissist. People who keep talking and blabbing about self at any length irk the most. Forget about drawing people they drive them away. In fact people start avoiding narcissists. They lack empathy and have a fragile ego. They desire to be centre of attraction and considered superior. Deep down they suffer from inferiority complex. A charismatic person is always nice to others, looks pleased to see them, shows interest in them and is encouraging rather than finding faults with them.
Be self confident, have self belief: Self confidence is the belief in our abilities to accomplish any task no matter the odds, difficulties and adversities. Our success, by and large, is the result of our iron faith in ourselves translated into action. To develop self confidence you should take a good care of yourself, stay away from negative people, always visualise the best version of yourself, appreciate yourself for your achievements, maintain a good body posture and eye contact, learn new skills and help others.
Develop a confident body posture: A good body posture is the essence of style and charisma and never goes out of fashion. It makes you look attractive and confident, and as they say ‘if you are confident, you are beautiful’. For this you should make a conscious effort, make sure you sit, stand and walk in an upright position, with your stomach in, chest out and shoulders pulled back.