Tips to Develop Emotional Intelligence

Updated: Aug 27, 2020

Learn to be emotionally strong and develop emotional skills

When we say intelligence, we generally refer to intellectual or logical intelligence and tend to think that it is the only type of intelligence that exists. Contrary to this belief, nine types of intelligences have been identified and emotional intelligence is one of them.

How often do we believe that our success in life, relationships and profession is directly related to our intelligence quotient (IQ), but when in fact it is more the result of our emotional quotient (EQ)/ emotional intelligence. A high IQ may merely take you to where you want to reach in life but to stay there and keep heading strong depends only and only on your EQ. So, what exactly is emotional intelligence?

Emotions are our feelings that shape our attitude and behaviour and guide our actions. Intelligence is our ability to understand, learn, think and apply. And emotional intelligence is the art of mastering emotions of self and others, the one who can master emotions can master his actions and the one who can master his actions can master his future.

Not many people know that emotional intelligence is actually a skill, which can be developed with conscious and sincere efforts. By following these tips we can improve our emotional intelligence, which are:


1. Know your emotions: Emotions are complex, they work in layers. Every emotion that you experience has a deeper emotion leading to the one you are experiencing. Hence, it is often difficult to understand the actual reason behind our emotions, and since we do not understand the reason we feel helpless to improve the situation and get more embroiled in our emotions. But we need to get out of this emotional trap. For this, be your own therapist. All you need is, whenever you are having an emotional crisis, take some time out and think, “what emotion am I experiencing right now and from what cause?” then look at the wheel of emotions given here, starting from the innermost wheel and moving outward identify the deeper emotion underlying the surface core key emotion that you are experiencing.



2. Harness positivity: Optimists see the reason for failure as within their control and know that they can change it and make things happen. Pessimists on the other hand, see reasons for failure as fixed, something that cannot be changed. They feel they are helpless in making things any better, which is why they continue to fail or struggle. Hence, optimism is the key to self motivation and obtaining emotional balance.


3. Take care of yourself: Limit your caffeine intake, exercise regularly, get enough sleep, eat healthy meals, take care of your hair, skin and nails,